Emotional blackmail.

Emotional blackmail.

Everyone can be on occasion victims or perpetrators of emotional blackmail. Emotional blackmailers are characterized by manipulating the feelings of others for personal gain. Like a currency is involved, people who exercise use emotional blackmail and manipulate others' emotions in order to control the thoughts, behavior and sentimientos someone else.

The truth is that is a common practice, especially in close relationships and family.

The blackmailer usually is usually quite skilled and knows the power of feelings and verbal and nonverbal language. Transmits messages hidden between lines pressures, conditions and consequences, such as: "If you leave me I'll die, I take your life your fault" "If I wanted really not let me alone, or alone." The intention of the blackmailer is blaming the other for their own behavior order to maintain their tied victim, his life and disposal. People who use emotional blackmail have different styles of handling; some use disregard or punishment and others use silences, emotional detachment and a cold behavior. Sometimes their non verbal language, gestures and gaze conveys disapproval or condemnation, but others use twisted laden messages and negativity.

Emotional vampires.

To protect themselves from emotional vampires are essential and basic know two things.

• Keep the focus on their own emotional fluctuations (confusion, insecurity, anxiety ...).
• Knowing how identify vampires clearly. For example, often after being in company of an emotional vampire appears.
• Certain degree of feelings of confusion, uncertainty and discomfort  That discomfort is filled with feelings of doubt and anxiety that make difficult distinguish the feelings themselves.

Suddenly it is as if one could identify clearly what he thinks or feels, "I have been with my (father, mother, children, siblings, brothers,laws, co clothiers work ...) and I feel that happens me something I do not know is. I feel strange and bad, guilty, inferior, I'm not good ... but I do not know what is and do not know why ".These feelings are usual after being with an emotional vampire.

But what is beyond doubt is that the more we know and the more sure we are of ourselves,less we influence the perverse acts of emotional vampires. Therefore, we must trust our instincts and be our own ally, because if we can not fall into the trap of becoming our own emotional vampires.